Dating Apps and Boundaries

Dating apps are a new and innovative way to find new relationships.  For those that may live a busy work life they can provide an opportunity to meet more people.  Also, they can be a safer way to get to know someone without divulging too much personal information up front.  But at the same time, they can be overwhelming if you are unsure of what you are looking for in a relationship, are hesitant to draw boundaries, or are struggling with your own confidence.  Here are a few areas to consider before you start swiping:

-        are you looking for simple dating or a serious relationship?

-        What are your values that are non-negotiable?

-        Are you willing to say no, I’m not interested?

-        What are your expectations for dating?  Dinner?  Movie? Netflix and Chill?

-        Do you want to talk a while before meeting in person? Or make a plan and do it right away?

Most important before using dating apps is to know what you want and be in a healthy mindset to not settle.  Self awareness is important.  Know your values and beliefs.  Your self worth and esteem are key to remembering your own value.  And being honest with yourself about what you want from dating or a relationship sets your intentions.  Being able to clearly say yes or no keeps you honest with yourself and the other person.  Either of you has the right and freedom to stop the conversation and move on.  And just like any other social media, if you find yourself with anxiety or stress with the app, delete it.  Take a break.  Reevaluate if dating apps are the best route for you.  Many people have found successful relationships and even marriage through these apps.  But meeting new people can happen in a variety of situations so don’t limit yourself. 

Resources

https://www.verywellmind.com/8-tips-dating-app-etiquette-5214876

https://www.rainn.org/articles/online-dating-and-dating-app-safety-tips

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindful-dating/202205/12-tips-online-dating-success